A secret to joy

December 6, 2013


…. Or at least contentment.

By the way, Happy Birthday, Mark!

I had a flash the other day about an internal life motto-thing that has changed from when I was younger. When I was in high school/college my attitude about grades was, “Expect to fail. That way any grade you get over an F will make you happy.” It’s a slacker’s motto, but I certainly wasn’t stressed out about making all A’s, that’s for sure.

Now, as an adult, I realize that this saying is true for me:

Lowering your standards will increase your capacity for joy.

I’m prepared to defend this.

I don’t mind wearing crummy clothes. I am content with my wardrobe.
Fine dining doesn’t interest me, I’m content with eating whatever I make (or order from Runza).
My kids are having a rough day? Ok, this is tough, but knowing that maybe it is just my own expectations that are contributing to my brain anyeryism, that makes me scale it back a bit.
I like crummy gas station coffee when I’m out and about. It’s cheap and has caffeine.

This is coming from a whole internal dialogue that I often have, and maybe someday I’ll ramble on more about it, but for now – this is good enough.

(See what I did there?)

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Lauren Sommerer is a preschool teacher who likes to build prototypes, grow cats, cook things once, save money, reduce, reuse and recycle.

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4 Responses to “A secret to joy”

  1. Brad Said on:

    I have tried not become an audiophile for this reason. High quality sound equipment is expensive. If I can hear the music, that’s enough.


  2. Peggy Said on:

    You.are.my.hero! Please ramble on more….ramble a whole book on this.


  3. Lauren's mom Said on:

    You are your mother’s daughter. 🙂


  4. Ron Royuk Said on:

    We and everyone loves you just the way you think you are!!!!!!!!!


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